Final Sunday, we decided to go to the rammed opening night of a women’s that is new (Dana’s) at Semi-Tropic
The Silver Lake cocktail lounge used whilst the located area of the brand new lesbian bar set up by heartthrob Shane (played by Katherine Moennig) in Showtime’s The L Word: Generation Q reboot.
The irony is that outside the imagination of Showtime, there are not any lesbian that is full-time in Los Angeles. Finding myself an additional scrum, that one a five-thick huddle of women looking to get a glass or two during the club, conversations had been flying about how precisely Ellen DeGeneres might contour up being a patron saint for females whom can’t manage to travel across the world to” that is“ladies-only.
“Ellen’s got some change that is loose” one woman in a trucker limit hollered as she passed margaritas back into her buddies. “She has to brand a bar that is lesbian. We require even more space right right right here! ”
I inquired LeJeune exactly just what she believes concerning the cause that is lesbian.
“what’s the ‘cause’? ” she asked. “i did son’t recognize there was clearly a challenge. We mean, I’m perhaps not a lesbian. Will there be problem? ”
Lejeune informs me she’s “150 per cent a feminist, ” and she’s available in regards to the aspirational objectives of Skirt Club. “Our motto is. ‘Confidence through the bed room to your boardroom. ’ I would like ladies to head into work with Monday following a sex that is fabulous and take control. Run the conference, call the shots. An adequate amount of all of this bullying from males. They’re perhaps perhaps perhaps not smarter. The time in fact they’re lazy half. I believe guys have been around in cost for too much time. ”
Rudo Mashongamhende, community manager at Sonder & Beam, a unique platform that is sex-positive cis ladies, trans ladies and non binary individuals which publishes a directory listing female-owned sex organizations, describes why she’s got never attended a Skirt Club or Killing Kittens occasion. “I am a queer black colored girl and the pictures on the social media marketing are of white, middle-income group ladies. Those ladies undoubtedly deserve to possess an area on their own, but i simply believe that I would personally never be comfortable there. ”
Within the dense of this real intercourse celebration, politics recedes. When I stroll all over Los Angeles mansion, I’m distracted by the sight of an African-American girl in a vapor punk mask appearing from between your feet of another visitor splayed on a grand piano. She presents by by herself as Harleen and informs me that she’s flown in most the real way from Philadelphia.
The 31-year-old advertising consultant declares that she’s a lesbian, but shrugs when I mention my concern that butch lesbians aren’t welcome when you look at the brand brand new sex-positive landscape. “I’m therefore on the infighting inside the LGBTQ community, ” she says. “We are constantly attempting to make therefore numerous dilemmas for one another. We’ve got in the future together! ”
She’s right, needless to say. Shame-free feminine sexuality has to be a concern for the times additionally the more options that lead in that direction the higher. Then? If an additional gay guy states if you ask me, “Oh, don’t lesbians have Grindr” we shall get formally mad. No, we don’t. As Mashongamhende underlines, “The intercourse scene for women-only is nevertheless too small. ”
I’m just suggesting a tweaks that are few. Start thinking about the way the Victoria’s Secret underwear brand (read: male gaze underwear) is struggling to keep appropriate while Rihanna’s Savage X Fenty is certainly going from energy to power compliment of its championing of variety.
And there’s hope. Since I began composing this, Sayle emailed me personally to state that she’s been seeing “a increase of butch/femme lesbian couples at primary KK activities therefore we have been changing gown codes to match this. ” KK and Nicola Chubb, called a thrower of high-end lesbian parties (with no intercourse) when you look at the U.K. Beneath the Mint brand name, is going to be joining forces later on in 2010 to generate, claims Chubb intriguingly “something that hasn’t occurred before. ”
In the Los Angeles mansion, Harleen is distracted from our discussion by a sound through the room that is next for, “Another licker please! ”
She grins, explaining that this really is “about the tequila game. ” She moves down, telling me personally, “We have to all simply calm down. Now if you’ll reason me personally, I want to have a time that is good. ”
The next Skirt Club is in nyc, Feb. 28; the second Clitoratti is with in London, March 6. Stephanie Theobald could be the writer of sexual interest: on the way to A Pleasure Revolution.